‘Don’t Tell the Bride’ has definitely given its fair share of entertainment over the years, as grooms take the reigns of planning the big day all alone; from choosing the venue, cake and most importantly, the dress.
A few of the show’s past stars have recently leaked information on how the programme is set-up works and what really goes on behind-the-scenes, as show bosses are now in search for new couples to participate in the next series.
If you’ve never seen the show before, the groom is given £13,000 to spend on whatever he chooses in order to please his nervous bride on the big day – what could possibly go wrong?
According to those who have participated though, chaos is usually caused by the production team with the aim of stirring the pot to create drama.
According to LadBible, producers are believed to have the upper-hand on deciding the venue that is chosen – often giving their advice on particular places to make for a more interesting watch, as well as making sure the groom doesn’t choose the ‘dress of dreams’ for his bride – ouch.
Even if the couple chooses not to go ahead with the wedding – they’re still committed when it comes to the filming process, due to the costs involved in the production. If they do decide that it isn’t the right time to say ‘I Do’, but have already committed to the schedule, the couple could end up paying more than £1000 per day to compensate for lost time.
One former contestant named Mark Kelly who took part in 2015 told LadBible in an exclusive interview: “It’s a stitch-up but once you realise that, you’re already trapped in this contract. These guys have a storyboard in mind and they manipulate you into living that out.”
“My best man was supposed to be the guy who’s been my best friend since school. But producers wanted me to have someone I’d known only a few years. When I said I was unhappy with that, their reply was that the chemistry between me and my best friend wouldn’t work as well for TV and that if I went with him, they couldn’t guarantee the show would go ahead and I might have to pay everything back.”
Mark admitted that he had always hoped for a particular venue in his hometown of Manchester, which he knew his bride-to-be Kelly would be extremely fond of, however, bosses ensured that was never going to be the case and told Mark that it had already been fully-booked over the three-week filming period.
Instead, bosses encouraged him to choose an abroad wedding, in which the pair got married on a boat in Italy. While it may seem idyllic, Mark confesses that many close family and friends were unable to attend due to the distance and cost of the trip.
“We had a lovely wedding in the end but I wouldn’t necessarily encourage other couples to sign up” he stated.
Another bride, Jenni who wed her partner Andrew on the show back in 2015 also added that bosses can have a big interference when it comes to making plans. Talking to The Mirror, she said:
“Sometimes the producers deliberately make things quite difficult for the grooms! For example, Andrew was furious that I was handed the bill at my hen do, because he was told that the hens pay for themselves and wasn’t allowed to put money toward it – he was so upset when he found out it had been made to look like he had planned for me to be landed with that bill.”
Meanwhile, groom Adam who tied the knot with partner Dani at the Great British Tattoo Convention also admitted that she was often steered in directions when it came to making choices: “The whole experience was weird to begin with and at times they sort of set me up, but it ended up being a great day and I thoroughly enjoyed it.” he said.
Melissa Lindsay-Mensah who appeared in the show back in 2012 expressed that her experience on the show was nothing less than “hellish”.
In an interview with The Metro, she said: “We had a cameraman following us and filming us every day from 8 am. We could barely work and had to send our son off to Ireland because we couldn’t look after him – it was horrendous. Although it is your day, it is on their schedule and they have a set plan. The photographer was leaving at 8.30pm, and we never managed to get a picture of everyone altogether because we had to film.”
The way in which the show is produced did get too much for one couple last week, who made the decision not to get married.
Craig and Sofia were hoping to tie the knot – with the bride-to-be dreaming of a relaxed and romantic bohemian-style beach wedding. Talking to the E4 cameras, she confessed she had high hopes for her husband-to-be and would be severe consequences if he didn’t achieve what she was hoping for: “If Craig doesn’t know me by now it’s probably warning signs.
“If after eight years of being together, if they can’t pick what you want at your wedding, I don’t think you should be together. If he gets things really wrong and I don’t like anything, I actually won’t go.” she warned.
As you may have guessed, Craig really messed things up on the wedding day after choosing a Barvarian-style wedding dress for his Oktoberfest-themed reception.
Furious by Criag’s choices, Sofia refused to walk down the aisle to meet her husband-to-be, despite her fiance’s efforts.
I’m sorry that it’s f****d up,” he said. “I f****d up, I got it wrong… and I wasn’t doing anything against you, I wasn’t trying to make you look silly.”
“I think we need deep serious talks and try and get back on track – but who knows with us.” Sophia told cameras behind-the-scenes.
As the show closed, credits rolled onto the screen announcing that the pair wouldn’t be getting wed at the current time: “At the time of making this programme Craig and Sofia had decided not to make their wedding legal and were working together on their relationship,” it stated.